Do you use Tinder? If you said “No,” you are either 1. happily relationship’d, and/or 2. lying, but REGARDLESS, you should most definitely be all about Lane Moore’s Tinder Live show (a monthly gig at The Knitting Factory) because it is THE GREATEST CONCEPT OF ALL TIME! We recently had a little digital chit-chat about all things Tinder-related, so internet-eavesdrop on that conversation below, and in the MEANTIME, follow Lane on Twitter (@hellolanemoore), and swing by the Tinder Live With Lane Moore One-Year Anniversary Show with special guests Tony-winner Laura Benanti, comedian Jon Friedman (Girl Code/Guy Code), and rapper Awkwafina (Girl Code) on May 12 at 9pm! HERE WE GO:
I’ve not been to Tinder Live yet, but I have seen some of the YouTube videos people have recorded and it is AMAZING. Now, everyone knows that Tinder is the most hilarious video game, but what was the moment that you thought to yourself, “Let’s take this to the next level with a comedy show!”?
Yeah, for sure. I actually came up with the idea for the live show the first time I ever went on Tinder. The second I got on it, I immediately made an improvised video of me and my roommates going on Tinder and making fun of the entire experience as it happened, because it was so bizarre. And in that same moment, I thought it would make a great live show that would be really interactive and also bring people together because going through Tinder with my roommates was so much better than sifting through that garbage can alone at 2am.
It seems like a large percentage of dudes on Tinder are impossible to scare off when it comes to the prospect of possibly getting laid; what’s been the most insane thing that you’ve said to someone who (after the exchange) has still been into it?
Oh absolutely. One time I called a guy live on stage and told him I lived in the back of a bar and was super drunk, and was 16, and that my legs weren’t working that well, and he was in his 40s and he was still like, “Yeah, totally. You seem like a real, chill person. I’m down to hang.” Like, okay, cool! So you’re def a pedophile and a sociopath. Love it.
Do you have any sort of ethical code when it comes to how you steer the show?
Yes, absolutely. I really go to great lengths to make sure that myself or my show guests never get into something like “Oh this guy is ugly or fat” because that’s not funny or interesting at all. Plus, the second a guy I’m talking to on Tinder Live seems like a genuinely nice dude who means well, I move on to someone else. Because my goal isn’t to troll the decent guys on Tinder, but instead to show how awful people can be. I really only go for the ones who are crystal clear awful, like the pedophile who didn’t care that I was underage and my legs were broken.
What happens when people actually show up to the venue? (Because I feel like that’s happened before, but I could also be making that up.)
Haha. It has. I’ve actually had to stop inviting guys to the show because, think about it, I’m only talking to the really fucked up guys, so that means that they were the ones showing up. It was actually Connie Shulman, (who plays Yoga Jones on Orange Is The New Black and who I had on the show), who told me, “Yeah I don’t like you inviting these creepy guys to come meet you here. You should stop doing that.” She had a great point so, yeah I stopped doing that. But the first guy who showed up was really relentless and wouldn’t leave me alone. He was like, mid-40s and thought I was in my late teens looking to have drunk out-of-my-mind sex, so it’s not like he was a prince among men.
And have you ever accidentally seen any of the people that you’ve matched with on the show IRL? (One time I found out the hard way that one of my Tinder matches works the door at a music venue I have to go to a lot to review shows, and it has basically ruined my life forever.)
I haven’t, but I did get a message from a guy I matched with during the show whose friends told him afterwards that he’d been on it. But he was so cool about it, so nice. He was like, “So I heard I was on your show” and I thought he was being so great about it and chatted with him for a bit and I was like, “Thanks for being so chill with it, I really didn’t mean any harm” and then he was like, “Seriously though we should go out” and I was like, “Aaaand shut it down.”
And what happens to the people you’re interacting with once the show is finished? Do you tell them what happened, do you unmatch…?
I mean, if they seem cool, I’ll talk to them. Sometimes the audience will really, legit want me to date someone who seems hot and nice or funny and cool or something, so those people I might message later, but most of the time I just unmatch people because if I matched with them during the show, there’s like a 40% chance I think they’re insane.
AND have you actually ever gone on a Tinder date with someone you’ve matched with BECAUSE of Tinder Live?
I haven’t, but during one of the first few shows, I did have someone pop up on my screen who was like, my dream human. I was so visibly smitten. But tragically, I saw they hadn’t been on Tinder in months, so they’ll probably never see my profile.
What (if anything) has conducting this show taught you so far about Tinder, about the current state of humanity in the digital age, about yourself, etc.?
I’m a super hopeless romantic and honestly, I have a theory that pretty much everyone actually wants to be in an awesome relationship – it’s just not cool to say you want that. So I really do think, despite all the cynicism and confusing group photos, that there are men and women on Tinder who want to find someone awesome to be with. I’m on there and I feel that way, so I figure I can’t be the only one.
And finally, WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES?!
I think for a lot of reasons. One, because there’s that voyeuristic element of getting to see all these people in your area. And two, because you genuinely never know. I’ve actually met people who met their current partners on Tinder, so that’s actually a thing that could happen. Will it? Probably not, but hey, it’s worth a shot.